How to get what you want

By Charlie Knight |


The secret to getting what you want lies in getting what you need. Shorter hours, a pay raise, a change of title, a promotion... these are all reasons to initiate a talk with your manager. Your manager’s number-one priority is to make sure you are satisfied and motivated enough to do your job well. Otherwise, everyone loses, including you. The most important rule is to always approach your manager with respect.

Set up an appointment to talk

  • When there is enough time to have a real meeting, not when your manager is running off to lunch or 5 p.m on the Friday of a long weekend.

Know what you want to achieve

  • Before going into the meeting. You should picture the outcome and the steps you’ll take to get there. Don’t just approach your manager with just a problem; approach with a solution as well.

Ask The Question In The Right Way

  • Ask your question in a way that presumes your manager has already agreed. Instead of, "Can you increase my training budget?" ask your manager "How much will you be able to increase my training budget so that I can meet the product knowledge goals we set for the department?"

Come prepared with evidence

  • To back up why your idea is a good one, bring along anything that could strengthen your argument such as research, figures or your past reviews.

Anticipate the worst-case scenario.

  • For instance, your manager could greet your grievances with zero sympathy or your request for a promotion with a steely “I’m afraid that’s impossible.”

Keep your cool.

  • Even if things start to get heated or you have to plead your case, you’re more likely to get your way if you stay calm and on point.

Be assertive and persistent.

If you get a negative reaction at first, don’t back down immediately. You should feel like you’ve had a fair hearing and discussion.

You are entitled to ask for things. Your manager is entitled to tell you no but don’t ever feel like you haven’t got the right to ask.

Source: Vine 17

Charlie Knight

Written by Charlie Knight

Charlie has 3 years experience in digital marketing, helping B2B technology companies grow their businesses through inbound marketing before joining Vine Resources as Content Marketing Manager. In his spare time, Charlie enjoys travelling and the great outdoors, and he recently hiked from Mexico to Canada for charity.